Today would have been my Grandma’s 90th birthday, I miss her every single day and wish that I could call her up to hear her voice. Recently, I have been talking about her often with my co-workers when I do something she would have done. Even they know my life is lived by, ”What Would Betty Brown Do?”
In honor of Grandma, I thought that I would write a blog with the whit and wisdom of Betty Brown.
The first time I called her when both Conner and I were sick,; ”You’re a mom know, doesn’t matter if you’re sick. Get over it.” and I did. She taught me that being a mom meant that I was second and my children were first. She lived her whole life for her kids and grandkids.
On potty training and bottle weaning; ”He isn’t going to go to Kindergarten wearing a diaper and carrying a bottle.” basically stop worrying about it and it will happen. She was right.
On gift wrapping, ”Are you going to iron that ribbon before you put it on that package?” and she made me do that.
On being a hostess: The door is always open, just walk on in and be sure to treat your guests like family. Someone doesn’t have a family? take them in and make them your family. That was the hostess spirit of Betty and it lives on in this house.
Don’t let anybody see your house dirty and you better clean like the dickens when they come over. Also, if you want it done right, do it yourself.
On Everything Else: if you can’t do it yourself, sit right behind the person and tell them how to do it. My Dad and his brother are VERY good at this and their children will often say, ”okay Grandma”
On being sick: ” get one of grandpa’s socks and put Vicks on your throat, safety pin the sock to your neck..” or ”gargle with some salt water” while singing, ”Button up your overcoat, eat an apple everyday, take good care of yourself, you belong to me..”
On sibling rivalry:” Well, your sister really did never like you” ”work it out amongst yourselves”
On life: ”Faith, Hope and Love” and the golden rule.
On doing things you didn’t like to do: ”That will be another rose in your crown in heaven.”
On Christmas: A Christmas tree must be perfect, no holes, it may take two weeks to find one and that is okay. Blown glass ornaments are best, smallest to largest in the perfect placement. It is completely acceptable to re-arrange the ornaments after the first placement. Tradition is everything
On being upset and whining: ”If your mad, you will get glad again..” ”Would you like some cheese with that whine”
On manners: ”Tables are for glasses not for little asses”’ but under the table is a great place to play.
On resting: A good nap makes everything better. Grandma was a firm believer in naps and I still take a nap at least twice a week!
She wasn’t your typical old lady grandma, she wasn’t huggy and lovey, she was a grandma with an edge and wit. She was always there when I needed her, just a phone call away. She loved me like nobody else in life but she didn’t molly coddle me or sugar coat anything. She was a good listener and gave the world’s best advice.
She worked hard for her family and made a nice home for them. I learned so much on being a wife, mother and friend from her.
In the years since she died, which is fast approaching ten, I have written so many blogs about her and share her wisdom, she was larger than life ( though, she was only 5’1 and 3/4, yes that 3/4 was important) and one of a kind.
Once, while in her yard together, a butterfly landed on my shoulder, she told me that was good luck. Twice in the past week, a butterfly has landed on me. My grandma is in heaven but it was a little reminder of her here on earth.
Happy 90th birthday to the incomparable Betty Brown!