A Beautiful Story of a Beautiful Miracle

“I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him.” 1 Samuel 1:27

Four years ago, Marty and I were living at Stanford after his transplant. We fondly look back on those days of our little apartment that we lived in for one month. One of my cousins brought my kids up to see us, a seven hour drive from the LA area.  During that visit, on this little balcony, a journey of prayer was began after a deep conversation.

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My cousin shared that her deepest desire was to become a mom. She was okay with where her life was but she wanted to be a mom, more than anything. So I told her, ”let’s pray about it.”

I told her the story of my dear friend, who was a single mom with a son and how happy they were together. I encouraged her in her desire and really deeply felt this was God’s will.

One night during this journey, I had a dream where I saw a round headed, baby boy with dark hair. I told her, I had a dream, I saw your baby and he is a boy. She laughed at me and didn’t believe me at all.

For the next two years, we prayed together for God to bless her with a baby. There were so many tear filled conversations. Discouragement and trials ensued, the day I left California, we sat on the floor of our aunt’s living room, deeply devastated at very bad news.

One morning, the phone rang in TN. It was her on the other end…….she was pregnant!! Our prayers had been answered. The tears of joy that ensued were something I would never forget. Our prayers had been heard.

A couple of weeks later, she told our family the news. They said, ”You better call your cousin Julie and tell her..” She told them, ”She already knows.” as nobody knew the journey we had been through together.

I told her it was a boy, she didn’t believe me. 9 mos later she gave birth to a beautiful boy with a round head and dark hair. He is such a miracle,  a blessing, a beautiful story of faith, courage, hope and miracles.

He turns one today, I was telling my cousin last night that two years ago, this didn’t seem possible and now it has happened. This morning I told her, I had to write this story down to encourage others and share her journey in the most private/public way possible.  Funny how our miracles are tied together by major dates in our lives.  So thankful to have walked through this journey with her and been allowed to share her burden. Truly one of the most meaningful experiences of my life.

Happy 1st birthday to the miracle boy and his momma!

 

A/N: I asked permission to share this story to encourage others who are praying for miracles and facing trials.

 


Goodbye 2014

Every year, I reflect on where I have come from and where I am going in 2015. 2014 wasn’t my favorite year but it wasn’t the worst year. Really hoping for a productive 2015 more on that in a minute. 2014 has been a productive year, filled with learning curves and an uphill climb.

2014 was about learning for our family. Our good friend Tammy wrote us a message on her blackboard before we left California. It said, ”Bloom Where You’re Planted” and that is what this year has been about.

Struggling with letting go of close friendships far away and learning to lean on friends nearby. Learning to build a new safety net of friends here in K-town. For Elizabeth, she made some really great new friends this year. I learned to let people in and share more about my life with those around me. For most of the year, I sat quietly facing forward in my desk not talking to anyone. I am the quiet, shy girl at work.

Conner excelled and achieved more than we ever imagined in 9 months. Worked hard and accomplished so much.

Marty is always happiest where the kids and I are.

My favorite part of the year was the friends we saw! I love having company and I think we have had more company in this house than any other before. We’ve had many visitors this year. I can safely say the thing I am looking most forward to in 2015 is seeing more friends and family, where will we go and who will we see?

We have some big goals for next year and we hope to accomplish them. We hope to see you next year and wish you health, happiness, peace and joy in 201!

 

 


Merry Christmas 2014

I sit looking at a box of Christmas cards…that never got sent out last year and I had high aspirations of sending them out this year. They still may get out but they won’t include our traditional Christmas letter. Paper Christmas letters are a thing of the past for us, they live on the blog now with the rest of the Timms family’s lives.

Christmas came so fast, this year flew by and now we’re staring 2015 down the barrel. 2014 has been a year of adjustment and growth for our family. We’ve all grown personally and together as a family, learning to live in a completely new place. The newness wore off this year and the settling began in earnest.

I will fill you in on the happenings for each Timms. Each year I find some new order, this year I will go alphabetically.

Conner~ this year we have seen him turn into a man before our eyes. He turned 17, started learning to drive, got a job and completed an intense academy. We have seen his future take shape and started planning the steps to get him to that future. Next year will be the last year of high school and we are looking forward to all that comes with that.

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Elizabeth~ Life has dramatically improved this year for E. After moving and losing all her friends, she has started making friends and settling into life in Knoxville. She has made some nice new friends and found a good mentor. She loves baking and has decided she wants to pursue that someday as a career. The biggest change has been her recent addition of braces. She is growing into a beautiful young lady.

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Julie~ This year has been about work. Settling in to my new job for most of the year and this latter half of the year, getting a promotion and learning a new role. I must admit, I suffered some terrible bouts of homesickness this year. It is hard being on the other side of the country from your friends and family. I moved to Knoxville not wanting to make friends because I truly need another friend like I need a hole in the head. I had a few friends here before the move and that was good enough. I have been making more friends during my recent transition at work. It was also nice to be visited by several friends this year as well as my mom, aunt and uncle this summer. ( ps I chopped off all my hair, that is another change)
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Marty~ is thriving in TN. He loves his new job working with kids and it is just such a transformation. He also has a second job working at a outdoor store during his school breaks. He has enjoyed having time off during holidays and summer breaks. He runs the kids to and fro in the evenings to all of their activities. They have fun together. He is also enjoying being healthy and insulin free, still so thankful three years later for the gift of transplant.

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Max~is 14 years old going on two. He is enjoying his old age by terrorizing his family everyday with his demands and wishes. He is crotchy at times and demanding. We will all admit, somedays lately he has been throughly enjoyable. He has been content a few days here and there. He is happy with his Twitter fan club, he has achieved some world domination.As the years pass, we know our time with him is precious.

Oscar~ is happy go lucky, fat and lazy. He appreciates having a nice family. He celebrated his 7th anniversary with us this year. He is probably one of the best dogs we have ever had.

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We enjoyed a family trip to see my cousin Ben married in June as well as a trip to Chattanooga in May to see the Us Pro Cycling race. We are looking forward to traveling more next year.

Thanks to everyone who came to visit this year. Thanks to the friends and family who kept us going, praying for us and encouraging us as we settled in. Thanks to the new friends we’ve made along the way that have helped us out settling in.

Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas,
The TN Timms!

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One Word and #spreadhappiness

My friend Dot started a hashtag on Twitter #spreadhappiness, a few months ago. She wanted to bring joy to her followers/friends and tell them something nice. It has a ripple effect, a few weeks later our friend Naomi used the hashtag to the do the same. This year, I was reading my calendar at work and saw that September 12th was the National Day of Encouragement.  The day after my birthday which was perfect, I took all the love poured on me the day before and passed it around.

I wrote my co-workers hand written notes, I tweeted my followers, emailed good friends, texted friends and just spread love. It had a ripple effect and I hope next year it will catch on but that we will see more use of Dot’s hashtag as well.

There is so much negative in the world, life is hard and people are dealing with really tough things. Many of you know, my life has been far from easy but I have never lost my optimism, hope and deep abiding faith. Spreading that joy,love and hope is my personal mission in life.

I tell Marty and the kids, ” I love you many times a day”. After losing several close friends, I make a constant habit of telling my friends that I love them, on a regular basis.

One word can make a huge difference, telling someone what they mean to you or how you see them can encourage. Words and love fill people up, its the gas that keeps people going. So here is my challenge, use #spreadhappiness and tell people what they mean to you this Christmas season. Holidays can be hard for people including myself. Bringing joy can really make a difference to someone during this season.

 

Do the one word challenge, ask people to describe you in one word and give them a word back that describes them.

You often wonder, how do people view me or perceive me? For me, I am a transparent person, what you see is what you get. I know exactly who I am and what I stand for, I think those around me do as well.

Recently, I have made many new friends at work, being new in an area where you have no connection or roots, people don’t know where you come from or what you’re about. That’s why I love having a blog, I can give them my card and tell them, ”read my blog” you will know me quickly or by adding them on FB which can be like coming to a giant Brown family party at times. New friends can see your family and old friends talk to you and about you, they will know quickly who you are.

This has made me think of the one word challenge. So I am asking my friends, family, followers, and tweeps to join in this holiday season. #spreadhappiness and love. It can make a difference.

Now for the fun, how would you describe me in one word? tell me and I will give you a word back. I am not big on Facebook copy and paste posts. I ignore them because they annoy me, that is not what this is at all. This is simply writing on people’s walls, texting them, emailing, tweeting and telling them what they mean to you.


From the Bottom of My Heart

Thank you for reading and following along with my blog adventures. NaBloPoMo did me in this year, it truly was a challenge in self discipline. I do have to thank Conner and Elizabeth for helping me a couple of days and reminding me to blog.

The part I love the most about blogging is the comments. I know people read my blog.. a lot of you read but there are not too many of you that comment. I have loved each and every comment, they truly make me happy and I love the interaction.

I appreciate you letting me blow up your timeline and still reading. Thank you for helping me make it through.

Also, I am so thankful for all the texts, tweets, comments, phone calls regarding mom. I am a big believer in telling my friends I love you often and I love all of you who kept me lifted up during the last few trying days.

At this point, I want to say this will be my last NaBloPoMo but I know that next year I will want to do it again. I will be blogging here and there until then.


One More Day

This NaBloPoMo has been the longest ever and I am really wondering why I did this? Thankfully tomorrow is the last day.

Mom went home from the hospital today before she did though, I got a call from her that my youngest cousin Randon went to see her. He works in the hospital and stopped by, he chatted with her after explaining who he was. You see, he is my cousin on my Dad’s side and my parents are divorced, Randon is the same age as my son Conner. So she doesn’t know him well and hasn’t seen him in a few years.

He called me and left a voicemail, I was so deeply touched by this gesture. It was so nice to know someone looked in on her and checked up. What a nice young man and I am so proud of him. His parents should be proud too.

As I was putting lights on the tree today with Conner. He started fussing about the way they were laying. It was a proud moment another Betty Brown in training. My Dad asked, ”Is this some rule that you, your aunts and cousin’s have about decorating the tree today?” I said to him,” When we were little, you should have called us Betty Brown’s in training. We get it from her.”

Happy mom is home, happy the house is decorated and happy that tomorrow NaBloPoMo is ending.


The Longest Day

Yesterday started out amazing, cooking with the kids in the kitchen and having a wonderful dinner as a family. We watched The Macy’s parade together and just had a wonderful day.

My cousin Brianne called me, we talked and then I talked to my Dad too. I thought it was strange my mom didn’t call in the morning during The Macy’s parade. I called her in the afternoon and got no answer, I wasn’t too concerned since I knew my nephew Chris was visiting from Oregon.

Finally I got a hold of mom after our dinner. She said she had just taken their dinner out of the oven but that she wasn’t feeling well. She then said, ” I may have Chris take me to the hospital because my heart is having palpitations again.” Last summer she had a similar incident and needed medication to slow her heart rate. I let her go and she said she would keep me posted.

Later I noticed several missed calls in a row from her phone after my phone which is permanently on silent started ringing aloud. It was my nephew Chris calling to let me know that after my mom and I hung up, she clutched her chest and turned white. She had a mild heart attack due to Super Ventricular Tachycardia. I was floored….she was really sick when we were talking and I didn’t know.

My nephew has two little ones and couldn’t stay with her. I was so upset my mom was alone in the hospital and I started trying to find someone to go sit with her.  I even called my ex brother in law.

My aunt in Colorado was sick in bed playing telephone operator forwarding messages between people. Our family is fractured and it is never more evident when something happens with our parents. Of course, this is nothing I can fix…believe me I have tried. So Aunt Nette took it on and communicated for us.

It did get my nephew and I talking again, we hadn’t in a few years and I had been missing him greatly. That was a good thing.

Mom’s heart tests showed her heart is healthy and fine. They think medicine can treat her issue, though thankfully another echocardiagram led them to finding blood clots in her lungs. With this finding they think it is related to her Lupus. She hasn’t had organs affected by Lupus before this episode.

It’s hard being far away from my parents knowing they both have health issues. Mom’s heart attack now means both parents have had heart attacks.  Definitely causes you to think about the future.  It also brought back memories of being a little girl and seeing mom take off running down the street as my Grandma crossed the street to watch me, my mom’s dad suffered a massive heart attack at about the same age as my mom. Heart disease is hereditary and I have it on both sides.

I had to work today, that was good to keep my mind off everything. I got yelled at by a few angry people.

So thankful for my tribe, friends, and family looking out for me. I always know when I need prayer that I can immediately call upon my tribe and they will be there. I didn’t cry and was strong because I was being lifted by those who love me. God was with my mom yesterday in so many ways and we’re both thankful for the love and support.


Thankful

Thankful today I spent the day cooking a feast with my children.

Thankful Marty is healthy and well

Thankful that we have good jobs

Thankful we have family

Thankful we have friends around the world

Thankful for the amazing life and adventures I’ve had

Thankful that my nephew Chris drove down from Oregon to be with my mom today. He was there while she had a heart attack and got her to the hospital. She would have been alone if he wasn’t there.

Thankful that my friends were there for me tonight. Thankful I had many people to turn to when I got scary news.

Thankful for all of the support of my blog readers.

 

Happy Thanksgiving


Wayback Wednesday: Happy Birthday Kyle

Sometimes powerful stories are too important to not be reshared. The story of my cousin Kyle and I is so important to me. Today’s his birthday, he is my family and he is loved. For a long time, he didn’t know us and didn’t know how much he was loved.

Have your hanky ready. Read my 2012 birthday post to Kyle: http://www.julesmpg.com/2012/11/happy-birthday-cousin-series-happy-birthday-kyle/


Thanksgiving Scramble

The thing is….I work… a lot. So I haven’t had time to prepare for Thanksgiving at all this year. We have a standard menu and list but limited shopping time.

So tonight, the entire family went to the grocery store at 11 p.m. to buy our Thanksgiving dinner menu. I thought the list was made earlier in the week. It wasn’t…….so I wrote the list before going shopping in five minutes.

Went to the store and luckily obtained every item on the list. I was worried things would be sold out but they weren’t and we’re now set for Thanksgiving.

There was a debate between the kids. Conner wanted to fry a turkey and E said that she loves the smell of a turkey cooking. So we decided to do both………yes…we bought two turkeys. One small turkey to cook in the oven and one turkey to fry.

Then there was Elizabeth channeling her name sake in the store. She was very upset we could not find cubed stuffing, she only likes the bread cubes. Reminded me of driving around to buy Mrs. Cubbisons for my grandma.

Now to clean the house up for Thursday. Can’t wait to put the turkey in the oven, watch the Macy’s parade and eat a nice family dinner together.