Marty and I had dicussed at great length about whether saying something was fruitful or not. You know the momma bear in me wanted to say something, but the quiet half of this family did not want to rock the boat. So I just expressed my thought's, some of which were given to me by a friend and then I stayed silent. I did a lot of praying, including praying to forgive the coach his wrongdoings.
We got there tonight, I let Marty and Conner go over to warm up and stayed behind. I talked with the other catcher's mom who asked, "What happened? did my son say something?" and I told her the story, she was mad! She said she had no problems with them switching off innings, she was fine with that. She also agreed that this is minor's not major's and every kid should get a chance. She did tell me this was the worst team her son had been on so far, he has played every year since t-ball. So with the being the second time I had heard that, I came to the conclusion this really is just a bad team.
Conner played, he sat in a couple of innings, batted and played outfield twice. I cheered on the other kids and led the crowd in doing the same. I felt happy and good doing just that and being a good sport.
Marty told me on the way home that the coach came up to him and asked "How is Conner and his eye?", Conner had been hit in the eye and leg before the game the other day. Marty told the coach" That's not why he left?" and the coach looked puzzled" What do you mean?" and Marty said " You know that little conversation you had with Conner about catching the other day? well he thinks you told him that he wasn't "good enough" to play" so the coach says "That's not what I said or meant, I just meant he needs to work at it over the summer and get ready for next season"....Marty told him" That's not how Conner took it, you couldn't tell? he was almost in tears and when he went up to bat you could tell." and so the coach said " Well, I am sorry, I truly.." Marty stopped him and said " Look, you don't need to apologize to me, you need to apologize to Conner." so the coach did even getting down to his level. Conner forgave him and played well.
It is very obvious, that is what the coach meant. Not only did he basically say so, he basically has shown it by his actions. Obviously, the other mom didn't complain and so it has been the coach's doing. We have to just forgive him, learn the lesson and move on. Next year we will request he not be placed with that coach. Also we plan on working with him until next season and hope for better. He forgave the coach and I think has learned some valuable lesson's about life. I know that I have!
P.S. They won the game tonight and advance to the final championship round on Monday!