What is a good friend? In church yesterday, we heard the 3 traits that are traits of being a good friend. The 3 traits aren't anything unexpected, or shocking.....but they did make me think.
1. A GOOD friend encourages us.
Now, let's think about this. Who do you encourage? Does that SAME person encourage you? I have 557 friends on Facebook. Other than if I have a motivational status that impacts someone, I know I am not encouraging 557 of my friends on a daily basis, or a weekly basis, or monthly basis for that matter. I do know that I try to encourage my friends, but I don't encourage ALL of them. However, I started thinking about those that encourage me. This is an important thing. It is GREAT that I might encourage some, but who is encouraging me? I've realized that friends I have gotten upset with or, stopped encouraging is probably a result of the fact I don't feel they encourage me. Now, please don't think I am asking for encouragement. I'm not. I'm just understanding that it is important for it to be a 2 way street. I also realize that I have probably lost GOOD friends, ones that were encouraging me, when I didn't encourage them. For that, I am sorry.
2. A GOOD friend keeps us on the right path.
This one is kind of interesting. I believe it means to keep us going and doing what is right. I also think it means helping us to be ourselves. I have some friends who I can truly be myself around and I LOVE being with those people. I have other friends, that when I am around them I find myself trying to be who they (as I feel) want me to be, and usually those times aren't as fun. Now, that is silly. I am who I am...and that should be enough for a GOOD friend. I think this one is tough for kids in school. Here is where we have to learn that it is okay to be ourselves and not act like others.
3. A GOOD friend complements us. (Notice, it's not compliments...though that is always nice.)
A good friend helps us see our strengths and weaknesses. They are there through the good and bad. They are there when we need them, whether it be to just listen, or to just talk. They are willing to support us and tell us the truth when it needs to be heard. They remind us of our priorities and yet remind us of our free-spiritedness.
Friendship is tough. You have to be there for the GOOD and the BAD days. It's funny, there are some friends that I would NEVER tell I had a bad day.....why is that? We all have them....the truth is I don't think they will really care, so, it is easier to just pretend that my life is great.
I am thankful for all of my friends, but I am especially grateful for my GOOD friends. My encouragers, my friends who help me to be me and inspire me to have fun and live life to the fullest, my friends who complement me and help to make my life better.
I hope you are this type of friend to others and that you have friends that are this for you
I loved this scene from Steel Magnolias...."Here, hit this!!!"